Rules about dating older men

There's already enough pressure when it comes to dating, why add more stress and think about the age thing if you really like this dude?

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In fact, nearly 60 percent say they make better decisions about compatibility now compared to when they were younger. If he walks away from the date having shared too much or hasn’t learned about you, then there won't be a second date.

Some 42 percent have better quality dates, and 52 percent say part of the allure of dating in the 50s is the absence of the tick-tock of the biological clock.

More than 30 percent don’t even know where to begin and nearly 30 percent say they find it too stressful (think back to those sweaty palms and awkward conversations.) For more than 40 percent of respondents, other priorities are simply more important, and nearly one-quarter say it’s just too difficult to date when you’re 50-plus. Be the master of the segue if he talks too much, or the conversation swerves into uncomfortable topics. Show up to your dates open, happy and being your already charming self.

That’s true whether you’re 16 or 56, but more than 40 percent don’t believe there is anyone “out there” to date.

The grown-up dater gives him a reasonable amount of time to show up, and then says a big “So what! Take care of yourself by initiating a conversation and sharing your needs and wants.

If you are dealing with a grown-up man he will appreciate and respect you for it.

Even when I was in high school, boys that were older seemed more mature, more confident, and less…lost? But for those of us who do, having a boyfriend who doesn’t really care about where he’ll be five years from now, or worse–doesn’t feel the need to work on that–is taxing to say the least. He could get bored at your group’s pub crawl, and you might not want to spend time with his married, older friends.

While dating an older man, you usually don’t have to play games, or read between the lines. You don’t have to wait for him to figure things out. Family introductions can go wildly unexpected as well. The sooner you realize that you’re different no matter how many things you have in common, the easier it will be to deal with it.

It starts off innocently with a question like “So what happened with your marriage? Nothing positive can possibly come from this, sister. Yes, I know he said he was going to call you, I know you had a great date and want to see him again. That’s especially true of the grownup men that you’re dating. The last thing you want at 55 is to wake up in the morning with flashbacks to your days as a 20-something, right? His manners, his shirt, his smile, the way he talks about his kids.

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