Josh harris i kissed dating goodbye

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I don’t remember if he put his arm around me, but he probably didn’t, or at least not immediately – which should have been my first warning.

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We needed to go out to the theatre and drink Pinot Grigio Blush and go for walks in St James’s Park.

I, and many of my friends, wanted to feel desired, or even noticed, just sometimes.

Guys were terrified of asking girls out, because the instant a guy and a girl went out, she was presumed to be planning her wedding.

(Girls, of course, were not meant to do the asking.

I understand, in some ways, the wisdom of it when the people involved are teenagers.

I certainly understand why parents and youth leaders and pastors would want to teach that, even if it is, at best, a theological stretch: there’s the well-intentioned desire to protect those you love from hurt, and then the convenience of having fewer embarrassing or difficult conversations, less emotional fall-out to deal with.

In the UK, at the time I was reading this book, what we needed was casual dating, not less.

As soon as a man and a woman were caught talking to each other at church, rumours would fly.

But we were already pretty serious, pretty intense, about relationships, which were relatively rare – not least because it’s hard to date around within the faith when there are far fewer Christians in your country to start with.

Into this context came Josh Harris’ book, and others like it, and those general currents from the other side of the Atlantic, and it seemed as if that stopped what little dating there was dead in its tracks.

I mention he was American because it occurred to me the other day that perhaps he had, in fact, read .

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