I am dating a black guy

Take the segregation and gang rivalry in Los Angeles or the hate crimes in southern states, like Texas and Atlanta.

In Georgia—where the Hispanic population has increased 130 percent from 1980 to 1995, and became the third largest state with migrating Hispanics and Latinos—there's been numerous hate crimes between Hispanics and blacks.

In the fall of 2005, six Mexican immigrants were murdered when a group of black guys attempted to rob trailer parks known to house immigrant workers.

While I've dated other races, I'm mostly attracted to black men.

My eyes and heart tend to steer me in that direction.

The curse is that those factors establish tradition.

I've experienced my share of racism and have had racial slurs thrown in my direction. I've overheard conversations about me where people spewed hateful words because they didn't think I knew English.

"You're going to end up pregnant before you're married," she once said. But my grandfather—my mother's father—wasn't too fond of my dad.

My dad knew that in order to ask for my mom's hand in marriage, he had to have a house ready for her. He also knew that the American Dream was the dream he wanted to achieve for them. She's always said that he's 'mi media naranja' (a Spanish saying for soul mate).

But it's not only about where and how it started; it may not even be right to think it started from any one place.

There's a myriad of factors that are both onset by personal experience and exposure to what people see on television or read in the news.

Thirteen years of dating boys outside my race and it took sitting down to write this essay to have the first, real conversation with my parents about interracial dating.

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