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This certification will not only give them the ability to offer partners of sex addicts better treatment, but it will make them highly marketable.
Since the release of the book Your Sexually Addicted Spouse, partners have been desperate to find professionals who work from this model.
Addicts will almost always continue to lie about past behaviors, even while in recovery, while promising you that you know everything, without a full clinical disclosure (therapist guided) with polygraph to motivate them to be completely honest.
With some guidance from your therapist, you should be allowed to ask whatever questions you like during the disclosure.
I hope this article will give partners the information they need to locate the right therapist for them.
Unfortunately, in spite of studies showing that 70% of wives of sex addicts meet the criteria for Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), most sex addiction counselors are still working from the co-addict model.
This will educate you on the sex-addiction induced trauma model. Ask if they use the term co-addict to label partners of sex addicts, especially before they have even met them.
Then call around to therapists and ask if they are familiar with the book and subscribe to what it teaches. (You can often find this on their website, which will help you rule out many therapists quickly.) If they do sometimes diagnose clients as co-sex addict, and hopefully they don’t, ask if they evaluate them first or if that is the name they give all partners of sex addicts.
Do they refer partners to COSA, S-Anon, or any other 12 step meetings? 12 step meetings are almost always for addicts and codependent family members of addicts.
Many partners of addicts (such as drug addicts and alcoholics) do enable addictive behavior, turn a blind eye, allow their children to be put in harm’s way by not protecting them from the addict, etc. But most partners had no idea their spouse was a sex addict for many years.
You shouldn’t be told something is wrong with you because you didn’t know. At this time there are only a small number of counselors listed here.
However, we have our first training coming up in June 2013, which will provide in depth training to therapists and coaches on treating partners from the sex addiction-induced trauma model. Plead with them to participate in the APSATS training.
Trainings will be offered all over the country at least twice a year. They can read all about it on the website mentioned above and register there as well.Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating